Showing posts with label face our brokenness. Show all posts
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Thursday, April 17, 2025

Brokenness – Disillusionment, and Redemptive Growth – The Raw Truth About Loss - Grief – Betrayal, and Maturity


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By Mary Lindow

As you settle in to listen to this podcast, maybe you’re facing difficult times and you wonder how God can still have a plan for your messy, hurting, perhaps disillusioned life. What about your loved ones, or those in the neighborhood around you? There’s so much brokenness that it can feel like anything you do to help is like a drop in the ocean. 

I certainly have had several moments this past season, months, days even, of being broken, disillusioned, angry, all the emotions that can go with hearing terrible stories of betrayal, clergy abuse, child abuse, adult children being estranged from parents, parents being estranged from their adult children, walking many from sadness over deep wounds from past relationships, festering with anger, guilt and shame. 

This service of working with broken people that God has called us to, (and me specifically these past couple of years as a Biblical pastoral Counselor), well, seeing and hearing the sadness, can wear you thin at times, and I go running to the feet of Christ over and over again, asking him to make sense of how humanity can be so vicious and destroy one another. 

Of course Jesus came to die for all of us, and in fact was broken, beaten, bruised and yes, he wept. So He knows the anguish and grief that can tow us under! The Lord has always been close to those who are crushed and broken, right from the very start. 

 

Brokenness Doesn’t Distract Or Hinder God. 

He extends endless compassion and love to us, even when we are feeling absolutely crushed.

When we don’t want anyone to see our brokenness, our shame, He is always close, never with judgment but always with kindness. The kind of kindness that heals.

The question is: 

“Does brokenness have any purpose?”

Or is it a hindrance to God’s plans and promises? 

Can God Turn Our Brokenness Into Something Beautiful?

 

In Matthew 26, Jesus had His last meal with the disciples before He went to suffer on the cross. 

Now, even though I’ve read this passage many times, something rich recently stood out.

“As they were eating, Jesus took bread, blessed and broke it, gave it to the disciples, and said, ‘Take and eat it; this is my body’. (Matthew 26:26).

First, Jesus took the bread, 

Then He blessed it, 

And then He broke it.

 

Now, I thought to myself … Why would He not first take the bread, break it and then bless it?”

 

There’s A Purpose To Why Jesus Did It This Way. 

The blessing comes before the breaking, because this was the theme of Jesus’ life:

Jesus was blessed by the Father and the Spirit during His baptism (Matthew 3:16-17).

Jesus endured the brokenness on the cross (Luke 23:26-39).

And, Jesus conquered death through His resurrection and then ascended to the right hand of the Father.

This is the greatest blessing for believers because we are united with Christ and fully restored to God!  (Ephesians 1:20; Ephesians 2:4-6).

 

Blessed 

Then Broken 

Then Blessed again.

That's the pattern.

 

Maybe You’re In A Season Where You Feel More Broken Than Blessed.

I understand. But because God has blessed us with His Son, every ounce of brokenness we experience on this side of eternity is pointing us toward the blessing of heaven, where we will be reunited with Christ, if we trust in Him. 

God also redeems our current brokenness as a means of blessing others who are also broken (2 Corinthians 1:4). 

We Can Know With Confidence 

That When We Endure Brokenness And Pain, 

There Isn’t An Ounce Of Our Brokenness 

That Is Not Under The Blessing Of God!

 

This Is A Hard Truth To Grasp. It may even be something we want to reject because it feels unfair or even cruel! 

I agree that it can feel that way. Even Jesus Himself agreesJust a few verses after the Last Supper, He prayed in the garden of Gethsemane and cried out, “I am deeply grieved to the point of death” (Matthew 26:38a, CSB).

We don’t have to dismiss our feelings when it comes to our brokenness. Even Jesus felt the full range of His emotions before His most broken moment.

We can come before God in humility with our raw, honest emotions. We can bring our brokenness to Him. We can trust that Jesus is with us, NOW. And, we can look to the cross and the empty tomb, knowing that though we experience brokenness, Jesus overcame it.

 

Brokenness Isn’t The End For Us.

Blessed, then broken, then blessed again. 

Lord, give us the grace to endure this reality.

 

I don’t think it’s a coincidence that Jesus, who was blameless and pure, had scars that remained after his resurrection. Jesus’ scars were not a flaw. They’re a reminder that even the Savior of the world has experienced brokenness. They also give us a tangible answer to our doubts, like they did for Thomas. In a moment of faithlessness, doubt and brokenness, God meets Thomas with compassion and kindness.

Jesus’ Scars Are A Demonstration Of The Lengths He Went To For Us, a sacrifice given to restore hope in a broken world full of broken people.

And the same hands that were nail-scarred? They have our very names written on them as a promise that God will not ever forget or forsake us (Isaiah 49:16). Just like a scar, they’re permanently written as a reminder of God’s commitment to us, no matter how broken we feel.

 

Very Few See This Bleak Moment For What It Really Is.     

It's a chance to see their need for something that is beyond themselves. But my friend, this can be a moment where the soul can cross over from its own empty silence, into an expected quiet that is alive with His presence.

It silences the anguish, the anxious restlessness into a calm and still place of peace. It's as if the soul finds that in this dark place, there is a secret well of sweet water, and it springs up and overflows with light and life. 

 

LEARNING TO PASS INTO THIS 

PLACE OF THE SPIRIT AND ALLOWING GOD 

TO KEEP YOUR SOUL IN REFRESHING 

SILENT TRANQUILITY IS A TRUE ACT 

OF THE MATURING BELIEVER.

 

God Put You On Earth In Your Exact Place For His Specific Purposeand you are living in that purpose, even when you don't know it.

Your soul may be grumbling and resisting, but you are living the story that God is ready to reveal to you. God is a lot bigger than you expect Him to be. 

He's a lot bigger than your circumstances. 

He is a God of detail. 

He is deeply involved in the small details of your life, but He has a "bigger yes" for you

Your true glory is the revelation of His splendor, his amazing ability to create redemptive “Resurrection moments” revealed in you day by day. 

 

In 1 Peter 1:6. It says,  "In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials."

 

As Jesus Is Revealed In You,

You Can Rejoice No Matter What.

 

The Display Of His Glory Often Comes Through Your Wounds. 

Your dark nights and cries of longing are lovingly heard, and as His bright light dawns, your grief contrasts with His glorious joy.

In brokenness, God works in you something beautiful, deep, and solid to offer others. You are developing inner strength as you are being blessed, broken, and given as an offering in your trials. True strength comes from your desperate need of God. You are a joy to Him as you offer yourself as a representative of His sufficiency. 

Paul said He wanted to know Christ and be conformed to the fellowship of sharing His sufferings, knowing there's a resurrection coming. (Phil. 3:10). 

 

Know that your Father created you for this time, for these very circumstances. He knew exactly what would be happening in your life as you are living it right now. He knows the impact for which He is preparing you, that still awaits you. 

Be Filled with his Grace and hope to lean into the purpose that you were create for, in spite of difficult people, through hard circumstances, and through tough challenges. 

 

Your Purpose, My Purpose Is In The Process. 

We won't get there overnight. 

We won't mysteriously wake up with it one morning. 

But today we are closer than yesterday, and tomorrow we will be closer than we are today. 

Be at peace in Him to know these things, and rejoice in Him. 

HE IS ALIVE! We Are Not Alone.

 

Let’s Pray Together, 

Dear Lord,

Sometimes I feel overwhelmed by how painful earthly brokenness can feel. Please help us, help me remember that you Jesus are our greatest blessing. 

You are with us now with me now, as we face hardship and grief and sadness and await a day when you will make all things new. Give me strength, give those that are listening strength as we long for this day, and we ask this in the name of the Resurrected King of Heaven, Jesus Christ, The Messiah. 

Amen.

 

I Know That Many Of You Are Going Through Many Things In Your Own Lives and there is so much going on around us everywhere right now as the Lord is more than shaking his church. He is exposing so many uncomfortable things, but what he is really doing is bringing his people back to a place to where HE alone is enough, his word alone is light and life, strength and guidance, no matter how difficult or dark the times can be. His word will penetrate past all of that panic and bring us daily comfort. 

I’d like to call it daily bread since we’re on the subject of talking about bread, and remember because Christ was the bread of life and he gave it to us,and since we’ve given our lives to him, we are now bread of life to others with whatever we speak out of our mouth in the name of Jesus.

It has to be in accuracy and mimicking the way he lived and walked. If it isn’t, then there’s going to be difficulty there’s going to be pain.

It’s going to cause pain. It’s going to cause difficulty.

 

So I Encourage You, If You’re Running And Hiding or if you’re trying to protect yourself from something that you’ve done that you know needs to come out into the light,run to Jesus, then tell the truth and get the help that you need. It won’t be easy, but that clawing horrible feeling of waiting for the shoe to drop will end, and the enemy will no longer have a foothold in your mind.

For Those That Are Suffering Because Of The Behaviors Of Others and you know that there just doesn’t seem to be an answer or an end in sigth, and certainly no vindication. I encourage you to not back away and to stand where God has you, but don’t grow bitter and don’t look for revenge. This is when we take it back into our own power at our own strength. 

Bless You Today

I encourage you to get before the Lord and ask him to show you the way that he has for you during these times where he is maturing you, maturing his bride, and it is all for the glory of the ONE who laid down that entire greatness so that we would have an access to return to heaven.

 

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Thursday, April 23, 2015

A Prophetic Teaching - “HANGING ON FOR DEAR LIFE” - The Lord Is The Friend Of Those Who Are In Despair




AN IMPORTANT NOTE FROM MARY:
Dear Readers,
Again, I would lovingly encourage you to please choose to listen to this message in the free audio/podcast form since it was taught and shared in a conference where the Holy Spirit enhanced the message, as well as giving a prophetic dream to one of the Pastors the night before this service.
A supernatural confirmation about what the Lord was about to have me teach was expressed in the dream and the Lord gave the Pastor a song to sing in the dream as well which further confirmed the message!
You will be tremendously blessed when you hear him (risk) and sing this song at the beginning of this conference session.

A Prophetic Teaching
“HANGING ON FOR DEAR LIFE”
The Lord Is The Friend Of Those Who Are In Despair

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By Mary Lindow

So, I went with him,
And when we were climbing the rocky steps up the cliffs…
…My beloved shepherd said to me,

"Oh my dove, while you are there 
in the seclusion of the clefts in the solid rock, 
in the sheltered and secret place of the cliff.

Let me see your face. Let me hear your voice.
For your voice is sweet. And your face is lovely.”
 ~Song of Solomon 2: 14

I am starting this message with a few references from portions of the book,  
This was written by a precious, humble and brilliant woman by the name of Sylvia Gunther. You can find more reading and devotionals on her website,

ALL OF US HAVE DREAMS IN OUR HEARTS that seem too wild or unachievable. To pursue them could mean great gain, but it could mean great loss and pain.
So.
Much like a rushing river whose power cannot be fully harnessed, we build walls to contain it, often without even knowing we are building them. We go through life bumping up against things, like the expectations of others, fear, and rejection that lead us to quietly start laying bricks, just a few at time, until one day we wake up and realize we have walled ourselves off from our own heart. We are no longer living out of our true selves.
But like all walls built by man to contain what they cannot control, the levee breaks. The wall crumbles. 

The Creator, the loving Artist who was so intricately involved in knitting you together in your mother's womb, is longing for you to discover the masterpiece of you. 

He desires for you to discover the joy of living out of everything he has put in you for life and godliness. This journey requires you to take the time to take an honest look at your story. It will require peeling back some layers to get beyond what you do to why you do what you do. 

TRUE FREEDOM IS WAITING 
when you cease striving to fit into everyone else's box or stop trying to make everyone fit into your box for them, and become exactly who God designed you to be — a one-of-a-kind masterpiece of art.

THE PEOPLE AROUND US SHAPE US ALL. 
How has that affected you? 
How would you be different if you were assured of complete freedom and affirmation to be who you really are? 
To answer these questions we have to look at a few levels, such as family, friends, church, and community — levels of expectations, behaviors that we have learned either by force or in order to please others, and what we’ve been taught to value.

Under all these layers of expectation, there lays the true you.

The Master Artist knew the precise colors, tones, and brush strokes he wanted to use when he painted the canvas of you. 
Some of us have allowed others to paint over that creation with their own agenda of who they need us to be. Vivid colors have been dampened and hidden. 
Here is the glorious news! 
The original canvas is still there, and God delights to strip away all that was not in his plan and wants to restore the beauty of you. 

THE MASTER ARTIST SMILED ON THE DAY YOU WERE CREATED.
He dances and rejoices over you with singing, wooing you to join him on a wild voyage of discovery.
Will you accept his invitation? 
Are you ready to take an honest look at your own life to discover your true heart?

IMAGINE THIS!
There you are, struggling and hanging on for dear life, trying to find a toehold or finger hold to grip and hang onto on a steep climb. The sun is beating down on you and your ropes are fraying.

LIFE IS SEEMINGLY GETTING HARDER 
The world around you is swirling and shouting out bad news about terrorist plots and Ebola outbreaks, your job is not producing any sense of delight, there are fights in the family, fights in the church, you are tired, thirsty, beat down and afraid…
… And you don’t dare look down for fear of falling, failing or perhaps giving in to gravitational pull and just letting go. 
You are sweaty; you are exhausted, and feel as if you have little to offer. 

AND THEN THE VOICE OF THE ONE...
...Climbing not too far away from you, dares to say:
“Oh my dear! While you are hanging there in the clefts and toeholds of these rocks, let me give you a bit of shade, a shelter here under a cliff. 
Let me see your face! LET ME LOOK AT YOU! 
Let me hear your voice, I WANT YOU TO TALK TO ME!  For your voice is sweet to ME and your face is so lovely right now.”
As you hang there… 
…Stunned at these words coming at you during this desperate attempt to climb to higher ground and to find rest and safety, you are shocked, doubtful and almost angry!

“YOU HAVE GOT TO BE JOKING LORD! 
NOW? HERE?
“I am a desperate, weary, exhausted mess!”
This is the HONEST cry of a person who is in the midst of adversity that threatens to sweep them away.  
The reasons for broken-heartedness are more numerous than I have time or space to address. My intention, is to show you that the Lord is the friend of those in despair.

THE LORD IS YOUR REFUGE DURING THIS TIME.
Do not be mislead into believing another human can address the healing needs of your soul, for only THE LORD can see the extent of the damage that has been done to you, and only He can truly heal your broken heart.
Continue to SPEAK OUT LOUD to this companion on the CLIFF! Bring Him your wailings and suffering. I suggest you do so verbally, in the privacy of your room or a place you go to pray.
Many people are fearful of letting God see all that is going on within them as they wrestle and hurt. They think that God does not want to hear their moaning and that God will not understand their pain.  
They fear that to allow God to see all the emotions churning within them would cause God to be angry with them. They might look UGLY in their current desperate state. THAT THEY ARE WRETCHED UNBELIEVERS!

HE SAYS THIS TO YOU AND I TODAY! 
“Be not afraid to let me see you. 

To let me hear your voice — Your prayers and praises. 
Your hopes, your sorrows.
 For sweet is your voice to ME. 
You are Perfection in My Eyes.”

And then at the hardest place, where you are sweaty, barely able to hold on much longer Jesus relieves us from such discouraging thoughts. 
In the holes of craggy and broken rocks, which resemble stairs, He, the one climbing alone with us speaks.

LET ME SEE YOU! FACE TO FACE! 
Don’t be afraid or ashamed to look at me! Come boldly into my presence, and LET ME KNOW YOU, AND YOU – ME!
Sweet is YOUR voice, and YOUR face is comely; (no – It does not say HOMELY!)  Your face is lovely! YOU as an individual person are accepted by me, and are pleasant in my sight.
I know that we don't see Him as He really is all the time. There are times we’d rather run from Him rather than run “to” Him.
I think there are times I see Him as pointing fingers at me for my sins, rather than standing with open arms in love. 
If we saw Jesus as He really is, I think we would be more likely to run to Him.

I ALSO WONDER IF WE ARE JUST SOMETIMES AFRAID TO BE DESPERATE FOR JESUS. 
To be desperate for Him means that we would have to face our brokenness.
To see and admit our need for healing. 
We would have to admit we are in need. 
That we got off course. 
That we are hanging on a rocky place and we are getting scared and weary of the exhaustion.
And we are all often, these things! We do need Jesus!
Of course we will be reminded, often by others who are masking pain and doubt, that desperation isn't attractive. 

DESPERATE PEOPLE AREN'T PRETTY. 
But this is who Jesus came for. He came for those who could acknowledge that they can't do life well on their own and for those who are empty and want the fullness that Jesus offers.
We must relinquish our unattractiveness and ugliness and be willing to run to Jesus! 
It doesn't come easy either! Accepting the fact that we have bought the lies others have spoken over us is not easy! 

DO YOU KNOW WHAT IT SOUNDS LIKE WHEN GOD CALLS YOUR NAME?  
Can you hear the tone in which He says your name?
Do you know what it feels like?  
Do you feel the brush of heaven’s breath coming near your very soul?  
Do you feel the warmth of it all?

AS HE CALLS EACH OF OUR NAMES, 
HE MAY SAY SOMETHING DIFFERENT. 
Sometimes, many times - as a matter of fact, He reminds me, 
“Let go of the past.  There is nothing there for you.  Go forward.  
Do not pause in the road I’ve laid before you and look back for one
moment!” 

Close your eyes today and “hear” his voice as He speaks softly.  Listen with your heart.  Close out all the sounds.  The ticking time, the screaming laundry or dishes, the buzz of your phone demanding that you respond. 
Climb up under a shaded spot  - under his shadow, Right at His feet and soak in His presence on purpose.  Not by accident.  

LOOK AT HIM FACE TO FACE ON PURPOSE TODAY AND HE WILL MEET YOU THERE.
Listen to what He tells us in His word - at this very moment.

Read it out loud.   Insert your name

But now,  _____(insert your name) 
The LORD who created and formed you says: 
“Do not be afraid, for I have rescued you. 
I have called you by name; you are mine.  

When you go through deep waters and great trouble, I will be with you. 
When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown! 

When you walk through the fire of oppression, 
you will not be burned up
The flames will not consume you.  

For I am the LORD, your God, the Holy One, 
Your Savior. 

LOOK AT HIM! 
LET HIM HEAR YOUR VOICE! 
HE LOVES TO BE WITH US! 
HE LOVES TO SPEND TIME WITH US!

As you do this openly and humbly, 
your own heart and life will be restored.  

But you must listen when He calls your name…
… And ANSWER.


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