Showing posts with label BETRAYAL AND CHARACTER ASSASSINATION. Show all posts
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Thursday, April 17, 2025

Brokenness – Disillusionment, and Redemptive Growth – The Raw Truth About Loss - Grief – Betrayal, and Maturity


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By Mary Lindow

As you settle in to listen to this podcast, maybe you’re facing difficult times and you wonder how God can still have a plan for your messy, hurting, perhaps disillusioned life. What about your loved ones, or those in the neighborhood around you? There’s so much brokenness that it can feel like anything you do to help is like a drop in the ocean. 

I certainly have had several moments this past season, months, days even, of being broken, disillusioned, angry, all the emotions that can go with hearing terrible stories of betrayal, clergy abuse, child abuse, adult children being estranged from parents, parents being estranged from their adult children, walking many from sadness over deep wounds from past relationships, festering with anger, guilt and shame. 

This service of working with broken people that God has called us to, (and me specifically these past couple of years as a Biblical pastoral Counselor), well, seeing and hearing the sadness, can wear you thin at times, and I go running to the feet of Christ over and over again, asking him to make sense of how humanity can be so vicious and destroy one another. 

Of course Jesus came to die for all of us, and in fact was broken, beaten, bruised and yes, he wept. So He knows the anguish and grief that can tow us under! The Lord has always been close to those who are crushed and broken, right from the very start. 

 

Brokenness Doesn’t Distract Or Hinder God. 

He extends endless compassion and love to us, even when we are feeling absolutely crushed.

When we don’t want anyone to see our brokenness, our shame, He is always close, never with judgment but always with kindness. The kind of kindness that heals.

The question is: 

“Does brokenness have any purpose?”

Or is it a hindrance to God’s plans and promises? 

Can God Turn Our Brokenness Into Something Beautiful?

 

In Matthew 26, Jesus had His last meal with the disciples before He went to suffer on the cross. 

Now, even though I’ve read this passage many times, something rich recently stood out.

“As they were eating, Jesus took bread, blessed and broke it, gave it to the disciples, and said, ‘Take and eat it; this is my body’. (Matthew 26:26).

First, Jesus took the bread, 

Then He blessed it, 

And then He broke it.

 

Now, I thought to myself … Why would He not first take the bread, break it and then bless it?”

 

There’s A Purpose To Why Jesus Did It This Way. 

The blessing comes before the breaking, because this was the theme of Jesus’ life:

Jesus was blessed by the Father and the Spirit during His baptism (Matthew 3:16-17).

Jesus endured the brokenness on the cross (Luke 23:26-39).

And, Jesus conquered death through His resurrection and then ascended to the right hand of the Father.

This is the greatest blessing for believers because we are united with Christ and fully restored to God!  (Ephesians 1:20; Ephesians 2:4-6).

 

Blessed 

Then Broken 

Then Blessed again.

That's the pattern.

 

Maybe You’re In A Season Where You Feel More Broken Than Blessed.

I understand. But because God has blessed us with His Son, every ounce of brokenness we experience on this side of eternity is pointing us toward the blessing of heaven, where we will be reunited with Christ, if we trust in Him. 

God also redeems our current brokenness as a means of blessing others who are also broken (2 Corinthians 1:4). 

We Can Know With Confidence 

That When We Endure Brokenness And Pain, 

There Isn’t An Ounce Of Our Brokenness 

That Is Not Under The Blessing Of God!

 

This Is A Hard Truth To Grasp. It may even be something we want to reject because it feels unfair or even cruel! 

I agree that it can feel that way. Even Jesus Himself agreesJust a few verses after the Last Supper, He prayed in the garden of Gethsemane and cried out, “I am deeply grieved to the point of death” (Matthew 26:38a, CSB).

We don’t have to dismiss our feelings when it comes to our brokenness. Even Jesus felt the full range of His emotions before His most broken moment.

We can come before God in humility with our raw, honest emotions. We can bring our brokenness to Him. We can trust that Jesus is with us, NOW. And, we can look to the cross and the empty tomb, knowing that though we experience brokenness, Jesus overcame it.

 

Brokenness Isn’t The End For Us.

Blessed, then broken, then blessed again. 

Lord, give us the grace to endure this reality.

 

I don’t think it’s a coincidence that Jesus, who was blameless and pure, had scars that remained after his resurrection. Jesus’ scars were not a flaw. They’re a reminder that even the Savior of the world has experienced brokenness. They also give us a tangible answer to our doubts, like they did for Thomas. In a moment of faithlessness, doubt and brokenness, God meets Thomas with compassion and kindness.

Jesus’ Scars Are A Demonstration Of The Lengths He Went To For Us, a sacrifice given to restore hope in a broken world full of broken people.

And the same hands that were nail-scarred? They have our very names written on them as a promise that God will not ever forget or forsake us (Isaiah 49:16). Just like a scar, they’re permanently written as a reminder of God’s commitment to us, no matter how broken we feel.

 

Very Few See This Bleak Moment For What It Really Is.     

It's a chance to see their need for something that is beyond themselves. But my friend, this can be a moment where the soul can cross over from its own empty silence, into an expected quiet that is alive with His presence.

It silences the anguish, the anxious restlessness into a calm and still place of peace. It's as if the soul finds that in this dark place, there is a secret well of sweet water, and it springs up and overflows with light and life. 

 

LEARNING TO PASS INTO THIS 

PLACE OF THE SPIRIT AND ALLOWING GOD 

TO KEEP YOUR SOUL IN REFRESHING 

SILENT TRANQUILITY IS A TRUE ACT 

OF THE MATURING BELIEVER.

 

God Put You On Earth In Your Exact Place For His Specific Purposeand you are living in that purpose, even when you don't know it.

Your soul may be grumbling and resisting, but you are living the story that God is ready to reveal to you. God is a lot bigger than you expect Him to be. 

He's a lot bigger than your circumstances. 

He is a God of detail. 

He is deeply involved in the small details of your life, but He has a "bigger yes" for you

Your true glory is the revelation of His splendor, his amazing ability to create redemptive “Resurrection moments” revealed in you day by day. 

 

In 1 Peter 1:6. It says,  "In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials."

 

As Jesus Is Revealed In You,

You Can Rejoice No Matter What.

 

The Display Of His Glory Often Comes Through Your Wounds. 

Your dark nights and cries of longing are lovingly heard, and as His bright light dawns, your grief contrasts with His glorious joy.

In brokenness, God works in you something beautiful, deep, and solid to offer others. You are developing inner strength as you are being blessed, broken, and given as an offering in your trials. True strength comes from your desperate need of God. You are a joy to Him as you offer yourself as a representative of His sufficiency. 

Paul said He wanted to know Christ and be conformed to the fellowship of sharing His sufferings, knowing there's a resurrection coming. (Phil. 3:10). 

 

Know that your Father created you for this time, for these very circumstances. He knew exactly what would be happening in your life as you are living it right now. He knows the impact for which He is preparing you, that still awaits you. 

Be Filled with his Grace and hope to lean into the purpose that you were create for, in spite of difficult people, through hard circumstances, and through tough challenges. 

 

Your Purpose, My Purpose Is In The Process. 

We won't get there overnight. 

We won't mysteriously wake up with it one morning. 

But today we are closer than yesterday, and tomorrow we will be closer than we are today. 

Be at peace in Him to know these things, and rejoice in Him. 

HE IS ALIVE! We Are Not Alone.

 

Let’s Pray Together, 

Dear Lord,

Sometimes I feel overwhelmed by how painful earthly brokenness can feel. Please help us, help me remember that you Jesus are our greatest blessing. 

You are with us now with me now, as we face hardship and grief and sadness and await a day when you will make all things new. Give me strength, give those that are listening strength as we long for this day, and we ask this in the name of the Resurrected King of Heaven, Jesus Christ, The Messiah. 

Amen.

 

I Know That Many Of You Are Going Through Many Things In Your Own Lives and there is so much going on around us everywhere right now as the Lord is more than shaking his church. He is exposing so many uncomfortable things, but what he is really doing is bringing his people back to a place to where HE alone is enough, his word alone is light and life, strength and guidance, no matter how difficult or dark the times can be. His word will penetrate past all of that panic and bring us daily comfort. 

I’d like to call it daily bread since we’re on the subject of talking about bread, and remember because Christ was the bread of life and he gave it to us,and since we’ve given our lives to him, we are now bread of life to others with whatever we speak out of our mouth in the name of Jesus.

It has to be in accuracy and mimicking the way he lived and walked. If it isn’t, then there’s going to be difficulty there’s going to be pain.

It’s going to cause pain. It’s going to cause difficulty.

 

So I Encourage You, If You’re Running And Hiding or if you’re trying to protect yourself from something that you’ve done that you know needs to come out into the light,run to Jesus, then tell the truth and get the help that you need. It won’t be easy, but that clawing horrible feeling of waiting for the shoe to drop will end, and the enemy will no longer have a foothold in your mind.

For Those That Are Suffering Because Of The Behaviors Of Others and you know that there just doesn’t seem to be an answer or an end in sigth, and certainly no vindication. I encourage you to not back away and to stand where God has you, but don’t grow bitter and don’t look for revenge. This is when we take it back into our own power at our own strength. 

Bless You Today

I encourage you to get before the Lord and ask him to show you the way that he has for you during these times where he is maturing you, maturing his bride, and it is all for the glory of the ONE who laid down that entire greatness so that we would have an access to return to heaven.

 

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2025

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Saturday, March 20, 2021

“Helping People Out of Dark Places” - Episode 2 - Who Is Willing To Risk All And Help Us Find Our Way Back To A Fresh Hope?

 


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When trauma or tragedy happens, 

who bothers to take the time to help us? 


Who is willing to risk all and help us to heal and find our way back to a fresh hope? 

Episode 2 of “Helping People out of Dark Places” shows a better way to care for those 

who are worth rescuing from life’s hardships and tragic events.


There are those who come along our life's pathway,  who are sent by God, 

to help us, care for us,  and restore us. 

They are often the most unexpected people and show up at the most unexpected times. 


Do you or a loved one need prayer?

There are faithful intercessors around the world who are
ready and who are prepared to pray for you.

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Wednesday, September 25, 2013

"DEALING WITH SLANDER - BETRAYAL AND CHARACTER ASSASSINATION "




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By Mary Lindow

David had his Absalom,
Paul had his Demas, who abandoned him, and Alexander the coppersmith,
who "had done him much harm."
Jesus had Iscariot.


We know all about Judas,

so the story holds no drama for us.
We forget that Jesus chose Judas after praying all night.
They spent every day together for three years, talking, eating together, and laughing. Jesus sent him out in ministry. Judas shared in the miracle of feeding 5,000 people; his hands took the small, round barley loaves from Jesus and tore off hunks of bread for hungry people.

What makes each case of betrayal so painful is that someone who knows your heart—who knows your longings and character—turns from that and chooses to believe you are really dangerous.

The mind freezes as it tries to grasp how a friend, someone who knew you deeply, intimately,
could turn on you and attack you.

The singer songwriter Michael Card vividly captures the agony in one song:


"Only a friend can betray a friend,
A stranger has nothing to gain
And only a friend comes close enough
to ever cause so much pain."



Betrayal, I've noticed, calls good evil.

It twists a person's true spiritual endowments into something negative, a saintly deficiency or psychological problem. Betrayal causes leaders to not want to trust, to not want to be involved in anything called church, to not be vulnerable, to not open their spirits in worship to God.


Don't give up!

You may be tempted to flee, to turn your back on your call. You are walking where great people have walked before. They are remembered as great because they did not allow the betrayal to stop them. Instead they learned how to turn their pain into greater usefulness for the Lord.

What does it mean to slander?

To make a false and malicious statement that damages somebody’s reputation.
To set somebody or something up in opposition to somebody or something else.

But another definition of slander is to take about someone with the intent to hurt them. To whisper and hiss subtle, condescending, suggestive thoughts that someone is ”missing the real deal.”

II Timothy tells us that in the last days there will be slanderers and false accusers spreading innuendoes and criticism and reporting things unjustly about others.


Scorpions carry poison in their tails;
Snakes carry it in their cheeks,
And slanderers carry it in their tongues.


Character assassination is an intentional attempt to influence the portrayal or reputation of a particular person, whether living or a historical personage, in such a way as to cause others to develop an extremely negative, unethical or unappealing perception of him or her. By its nature, it involves deliberate exaggeration or manipulation of facts to present an untrue picture of the targeted person. For living individuals, this can cause the target to be rejected by his or her community, family, or members of his or her living or work environment. Such acts are typically very difficult to reverse or rectify, therefore the process is correctly likened to a literal assassination of a human life. The damage sustained can be life-long and more, or for historical personages, last for many centuries after their death.

In practice, character assassination usually consists of the spreading of rumors and deliberate misinformation on topics relating to one's morals, integrity, and reputation.

If the devil has any servants that he values the most, are they slanderers or gossips?
I believe they are!


Charles Spurgeon said,

"A lie will go around the world
while truth is still putting
on its boots."


Think about that!

In Psalm 15 David speaks such a powerful lesson about THE PERSON who can truly ascend to a place of Walking with God in a holy high place.

Psalm 15: 1-5

A psalm of David.

 LORD, who may dwell in your sanctuary? Who may live on your holy hill?
He whose walk is blameless and who does what is righteous,
who speaks the truth from his heart and has no slander on his tongue,
who does his neighbor no wrong, and casts no slur on his fellowman,

Who despises a vile man, but honors those who fear the LORD,
who keeps his oath even when it hurts, who lends his money without usury
and does not accept a bribe against the innocent.
He who does these things will never be shaken.


If you will notice…this type of person cannot be shaken.

That does not mean that he or she will not be sorely tested, or at times falsely accused or slandered. It meant that these things would not shake them from the knowledge that they walk with God in His Holy Presence SAFELY and confidently even though pressures and pain attack them!


The Lord is a protector…
…and a refuge from slander and accusations!


How great is your goodness,
which you have stored up for those who fear you,
which you bestow in the sight of men
on those who take refuge in you.

In the shelter of your presence you hide them
from the intrigues of men;
in your dwelling you keep them safe
from accusing tongues.

Psalm 31:19-20


I encourage you to spend much much time in worship

and in hiding the word of God in your heart. These two weapons act like shields to the soul when attacks and false accusations are unleashed towards you. There will always be those who gain power and prestige for a season through the use of slander or subtle suggestions that imply that you have some how “gone off the rails” and have become a lesser saint!


The Lord strongly addressed this in the following verses:


“Whoever slanders his neighbor in secret,
him will I put to silence;

Whoever has haughty eyes and a proud heart,
him will I not endure.” 

Psalm 101:5


"Do not go about spreading slander among your people.
Do not do anything that endangers your neighbor's life.
I am the LORD."

Leviticus 19:16


Servant of God! 

DO NOT let fear grip you and paralyze the Lord’s voice calling to you to serve Him freely!

No man or woman has the authority to tell you to not speak in the Name of Jesus if you are moving from a pure heart and a pure motive!

Of Course…you may thoroughly be discussed behind your back and dissected as to why you speak out or flow in the way the Lord might well call you to do!

But remember to be certain it is the Lord that asked you to speak out ...
...And then you are able to simply;

“Keep a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander.”


1 Peter 3:16


Remember this, obedient child of God:

When we are slandered, we answer kindly.


"Up to this moment we have become the scum of the earth ,the refuse of the world."
1 Corinthians 4:13

Love lived out and expressed honestly in the hearts that have felt the sting of slander and yet choose to forgive, do a greater work in the name of Jesus and for His Kingdom, than a thousand voices that may shout against injustice or religious forms and practices.

Remember…Jesus Himself endured insults rejection and ridicule.

And yet…
…He finished the course.

So will you!

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